If you love The Rules, please let us know why. You are right that state laws differ on this topic, so it may depend. Each month, over 30,000 people come to this site to learn about the basic beliefs of my religion, and it's my privilege to share about it. Or even more difficult, what about those divorced members who are committed to the law of chastity, but also facing the dating scene again? I’ve asked my parents but they don’t know the answer, especially since they both had “boyfriends” or “girlfriends” during their high school years. I have deep feelings with him but I don’t like how people are treating me when I say I am dating a non-member. I was talking to her friend about how I should approach this since I don’t want to be in a serious relationship before my mission, and unfortunately she told the girl I liked, who immediately told me she would back off and didn’t want to “ruin my mission or interfere with my religion.”. Okay. They are great friends. Okay so is that his parents rules that he can’t date till after his mission? This girl does not seem to fully understand or fully believe all of the Mormon church's teachings, and I feel that there is an opportunity to evangelize. I will confirm that it is up to the individual to be obedient to any of the principles or laws. So I've been dating a Mormon girl for the past three weeks and she's great. 3 hours (yes, three hours) on Sunday, plus additional meetings for many other things. The most notorious example of Mormon treatment of women is, of course, the practice of polygamy. Care to confirm anything? This article really helped for me in my current situation. I own an online company where I create websites which are read by millions of people. So I’m a newly converted member of the LDS Church. I don’t mind going on dates with groups or just talking but although I know I’m okay with it now I know later on I will want a relationship. Ok, can 12 year old boys have their first kiss. Thanks. They hang out together. If you disagree with The Rules, leave it in the comments below. Historic Christians heed the Bible as the sole word of God, while Latter-day Saints believe in the Bible and other scriptures, including the Book of Mormon. I do believe there are many exceptions to The Rules. Studies have shown repeatedly that developing very serious relationships at a young age leads to immorality and a higher temptation for compromising one’s values. If he’s shy and needs a nudge, he will still do it, it just might take him longer. I’m a 17 year old Mormon (boy) and it really depends tbh. I encourage you to come out of your shell and simply become a close friend with this person who you like, and who likes you back. I’m trying to figure out what to do and I know these rules that Mormons can’t take till they are 16 and I 100% respect that. I live in Star, Idaho where I attend my local congregation of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Hey Tim, I’d be glad to help however I can. I’m just a little bit confused because his parents know as well, and they seem fine with it. Your email address will not be published. The best thing you can do is to simply ask him what he is comfortable with. Nope most Mormon dont kiss before turning 16 most even wait till they are 18 before kissing. Especially when girls see them. And I’ve heard the laments from the men. I would encourage you to keep your relationship casual and friendly during high school. That’s a fun time of life. We believe in Jesus. “Good” Mormons find a Mormon church even while on vacation and attend on Sunday. Even when it might feel like they don’t. You’ll never have to wonder if he actually likes you, or if he just likes free food and something to do on a Sunday evening. I’m a newly converted member of the church, and I have a question regarding dating Mormons. If you’re dating a teenage Mormon, there are quite a few things to know. They have been where you are, and could help you and her to do this right. Any advice? I do not know the individual circumstances you are in, but I will say that honoring a righteous father and mother is an important commandment. I can see the arguments from both sides. So you’re thinking of dating a Mormon, eh? When he says we can only be good friends till hes 15 does that mean that we are in secret or just no your my friend only and we can only talk online. Invite your parents to become acquainted with those you date.”. By the way, sorry for not mentioning but I am aethiest. Hi Katherine, I would just open up about this with your parents. If that’s true, then I think you may find that just being best friends at your age is likely a better choice for both of you. My faith in Christ is the most important aspect of my life, and this blog is where I get to share my beliefs. It’s not rude. 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